In my brief career as a photographer, I have met several women dedicating their life to trying in pleasing men that, most part, do not care about them at all. Selfish “significant others” that have a conception of a relationship closer to slavery than Love.
These kind of situations always touch me deep down. Every tome I get back home from shooting with one of these women I feel sad and moved in the bottom of my heart as I simply cannot conceive a one-way relationship like these, between two human beings.
I accidentally discovered “Histoire d’O” thanks to the comic book created by Guido Crepax, an Italian artist I have liked since I was a young man.
Then I read the original book, written by Pauline Réage, and discovered that O (the main character of the story) is so in love with her partner that she is willing to do “anything” he asks – and I stress anything! – just to please him; she even ended up “branded” with a hot iron, just like a cow in a farm.
She lives in a kind of seesaw between humiliation and pleasure. Mental pleasure in pleasing her beloved one but also, perhaps, carnal pleasure.
At the end of this story, O falls in love with one of the men she was entrusted to by her initial love.
Contrarily to the women I mentioned earlier, from a certain point of view O is a winner: although Love places her in the weirdest of the situations, at the same time, at the end she also discovers the man of her life.